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    You Should Seek Help If:

  • He is controlling all finances and assets

  • He threatens to “out” your HIV status or to infect you

  • He puts down or forbids your language, beliefs or culture

  • He threatens to destroy your possessions or to “out” you to family, friends or work

  • He forces you to change who you are in order to be in this relationship

  • He blames you for his abusive behavior

  • He unfairly accuses you of having affairs

  • He controls who you see or talk to and where you go

  • He threatens to hurt you and others or to commit suicide if you leave him

  • He is forcing control using non- consensual manipulation and violence

    withdrawn? | controlled? | isolated? | silenced? | scared? | judged?